Welcome to Shall we talk?
Therapeutic counselling, helping you make a change for the better
New year, new you?
The new year is often a time we resolve to live better lives, seeking to reinvent ourselves as better and, above all, happier people. If you would like support to achieve real changes which make life better and happier in 2019, call today and find out how counselling can help.
Making sense of life's ups and downs
Our past need not define our future
When we first encounter distressing experiences our focus can often be simply to survive them. In order to do so we may form patterns of thought and behaviour which get us through, but which can continue unnoticed into our later lives. For instance, we might survive distress, sadness or loss by supressing our emotions, closing off that part of ourselves. This is functional whilst the distress is present but may damage our future wellbeing and relationships if it becomes our fixed pattern of relating.
Counselling/Psychotherapy offers us a means to explore our thoughts and behaviours, identifying those which are unhelpful and hinder our functioning/relating. Once identified, we can work on changing these thoughts and behaviours, letting go our past defences, and setting ourselves free to live the lives we choose.
Integrative Person Centred Counselling
Cognitive and Behavioural Therapy
Working within the BACP Ethical Framework
3 Steps to a better tomorrow
Building a therapeutic relationship between therapist and client, based on trust, respect and empathic understanding.
The therapeutic relationship allows the therapist to enter a client's frame of reference and work with them to fully understand their thoughts and feelings.
For those choosing to work with the cognitive approach, therapist and client work collaboratively to reveal the patterns of thought and behaviour maintaining the presenting problem and stopping it being resolved.
Understanding can feel wonderful and lead us to believe our job is done. However, for therapy to be successful long term, we need to make changes and to sustain those changes. Therapy helps us to identify how we can change, supports us to do so safely and equips us with the skills and resilience to cope with whatever life has in store
Ian Hawkins MBACP. I have worked in the field of mental health for over 25 years and have a first-class BSc(Hons)Psychology, a Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling and a Diploma in Cognitive Behavioural Therapeutic Skills and Theory. I believe in using evidence-based best practice to provide clients with the tools and resilience they need to meet the future. I work within an integrative person-centred theoretical perspective, incorporating cognitive and behavioural therapies where they may help to facilitate understanding and change. I am a graduate member of the British Psychological Society and a Registered member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. I work within the BACP Ethical Framework.
Ian Hawkins MBPSS MBACP
I routinely seek feedback from my clients and, those who have completed evaluative tools at the beginning and end of our work together have all reported significant improvements in their well-being. For some, that might mean that their symptoms of anxiety or depression are reduced or more manageable, whilst for others it may mean a problem overcome and a whole new sense of identity, competence or freedom to make choices.
Don't take my word for it, you can read what the NHS says about the benefits of talking therapy by clicking this link - NHS Moodzone, Benefits of talking therapy.
Contact me if you would like to discuss how counselling can help you.